That same Monster we see in another is also inside each of us. We have all done the bad things. It is a matter of understanding that we all have walked in the shoes of those we have issue with and we may once again.
Life is easy when there are no difficult choices to be made. Let the veneer of society peel back just a bit and we may once again see those options as viable. Or not. Depends on how far we have come and what our levels of fear are at the time.
I am only saying it is a conscious control at first but after a time a second nature quality will come with the training of our inner self in the actions of forgiveness.
As you experience the qualities of Divine love via the Kundalini as opposed to romantic or motherly or fatherly, familial, or friendship based love platforms one can begin to adopt that Divine platform into their life. It isn't an overnight success and it may take some testing.
Meaning that occurrences or events may become available for you to be tested with to source the depth of your practice. Bringing the rubber to the road, the bullet to the bone, the pedal to the metal (trying to be clear here lol), from the conceptual to the physical. So to say. - Just my take on it...
A person forgives the actions of another. Yet as we forgive we do not need to be a continued recipient of other actions demonstrated by that individual. Unless we do need that. We are all humans and we are all family. Yet ignorance does not allow for a complete self understanding and the actions of a person against another or against self may be repeated much as a child will repeat actions until guided by parents to not continue them.
So as we live inside of our integrity we can gently guide an individual by our actions. Sometimes we must be long suffering as the circumstances are not aligned for a departure from a job for example, or a life with out a mate.
Some cultures will not allow a woman, for example, to not be connected in some way to a male either as father or brother or husband. The rules of the culture may not allow for one to easily leave or have the confidence to leave an abusive situation. So we suffer.....and learn....and suffer.....and learn....until we can have that freedom.
Forgiveness is necessary for the Kundalini. It is helpful in many other aspects of life as well but it is necessary for the Kundalini as given here. This world is a giant school of many different subjects being taught and absorbed my many different people in different states of development.
That you are here exploring Kundalini should give you pause and reflection of what you may have learned in other classes and lives to lead you to this point and place in time and space where you have this opportunity. - blessings - chrism
So as we live inside of our integrity we can gently guide an individual by our actions.